Wedding Myths Both Nasty and Nice

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Weddings are chock full of myths, and while some have essentially positive connotations, others have underlying nasty, and even morbid meanings. Take note that these wedding myths have no scientific basis; it may be a good idea to follow them nonetheless, if you want the wedding to push through!

Though myths are often irrational and contradictory in nature, they are often believed in because of the superstitious belief that disbelieving in them brings bad luck in itself; however, their ability to bring color and character to any custom warrants their observance in any gathering.

The bride should avoid the mistake of signing in her married name before the wedding, since this act is believed to tempt fate itself. This is also the same reason behind the grossly exploited superstition which forbids the bride from wearing her entire wedding outfit before the big day. Disobeying the myth is usually believed to lead to heartbreak, or worse, tragedy.

The option of wearing pearls as an accessory to the bridal outfit is a wedding myth with contradicting meanings. The darker connotation of this act assumes that the pearl beads are symbolic of tears, which the bride will inevitably shed during her marriage. The other, more positive version maintains that the pearl beads also represent tears, but they take the place of the bride’s heartaches, so that more or less the bride will have a blissful marriage.

If it rains on the wedding day, this may mean one of two things: good luck, since rain is believed to predict a fruitful marriage and the blessing which childbearing brings, just as rain is the main reason for fruitful crops in the field; bad luck, as the rain drops are symbolic of the tears which the bride will shed all throughout her marriage. Obviously, the interpretation of this myth is subjective, and different people may see the same myth in contradicting ways.

People who will handle the ring during the ceremony should be extra careful, as the mistake of dropping it can have fatal consequences (according to superstition, that is). This fumbling is good luck for the couple, as it is believed to cause the evil spirits dwelling in the ring to be shaken out; but it may be tragic for the person who drops it, as he or she is believed to be the first to die out of all those in attendance to the ceremony.

The bride should stay away as much as possible from the tailoring of her dress, especially participating in sewing it. It is believed that for every stitch she sews on the dress, she will shed a tear during the marriage.

The exchange of vows should be done at the positive time of the hour, that is, as the minute hand is moving upwards in its course across the face; this is believed to bring blessings on the couple, as the minute hand is making its way toward heaven.

It is deemed good luck for the bride to shed tears on her wedding day, as she is believed to have cried all of the tears away, and leaving none to shed for the marriage. The bride’s tears are originally also believed to bring a bountiful harvest because it beckons rain to fall on the fields.

Bad luck follows the woman who is married to a man whose surname’s first letter is the same as hers. A famous Victorian line is responsible for this myth: ‘to change the name and not the letter, is to change for the worse and not for the better.’

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